Valentine’s Day is often seen as a day to celebrate romantic love, but it’s also a wonderful opportunity to reflect on all forms of love, especially the love we show ourselves.
Whether you follow a faith or not, self-love is a universal truth, an essential foundation for living a healthy, fulfilling life. It’s the kind of love that accepts us for who we are, without judgment or the need for approval from others. This type of love is unconditional, the purest form, it is boundless and places no limits on affection. The highest form of self-love, which means we accept our flaws, forgive our mistakes, and recognize our worth, just as we are.
For those with faith, teachings like “Love thy neighbor as thyself” (Matthew 22:39) remind us that self-love is not selfish, it’s necessary. We cannot truly love and care for others if we don’t first take care of ourselves. This concept is central to many religious teachings and reflects a deep understanding of our inherent value. If we are called to love our neighbors, the foundation of that love starts with loving ourselves and seeing our worth through God’s eyes. It’s understanding that God created us wonderfully and purposefully, and we deserve love not based on perfection, but because we are His children.
And for those who may not be religious, the same principle applies, how we care for ourselves influences how we interact with the world around us. As the saying goes, “you cannot pour from an empty cup”.
Life can be challenging. We all make mistakes, have moments of doubt, and face misunderstandings with others. But self-love means accepting ourselves even when we fall short, letting go of guilt, and choosing to forgive ourselves. It’s about recognizing that everyone, no matter their background or belief system, deserves love, without conditions or judgment. We are all worthy of respect, compassion, and care.
One of the simplest ways to practice self-love is through self-care. Taking the time to nurture our bodies, minds, and spirits; whether through meditation, mindfulness, gratitude, exercise, or creative expression helps us create a sense of balance and inner peace. When we make self-care a priority, it becomes easier to show love and kindness to others. It sets the foundation for healthier relationships and a more fulfilling life.
Unconditional love is one of the most powerful forces we have. Whether you view love through a religious lens or a more spiritual or philosophical perspective, it remains a resource that is unlimited and always available to us. The act of loving ourselves fuels our ability to choose love in every moment. When we choose love over fear, anger, or doubt, we open ourselves up to more happiness, peace, and connection. This allows us to live in a world where kindness, compassion, and fulfilment are within everyone’s reach.
As Elisabeth Kübler-Ross wisely said, “If we make our goal to live a life of compassion and unconditional love, then the world will indeed become a garden where all kinds of flowers can bloom and grow.”
Here are some thoughtful, simple and fulfilling activities you can do to show yourself love this Valentine’s Day (or any day):
1. Self-Care Rituals
- Pamper Yourself: Treat yourself to a relaxing bath, grooming session, or massage. Pampering your body is a great way to nurture yourself and show appreciation for who you are.
- Nourish Your Body: Cook a nutritious meal or indulge in your favorite comfort food. Eating mindfully and savoring the moment is a wonderful way to show love to your body.
2. Engage in a Creative Activity
Spend time doing something you love; whether it’s painting, writing, cooking, or playing an instrument. Creative expression helps you connect with your true self.
3. Practice Mindfulness
Take a few moments to meditate, breathe deeply, or reflect on your journey. Mindfulness reduces stress and helps you appreciate the present.
4. Treat Yourself to a Solo Adventure
Go on a solo date or take a short trip. Whether it’s a movie, museum visit, or scenic walk, solo experiences help you reconnect with yourself.
5. Reconnect with Nature
Spend time outdoors, whether it’s a walk in the park or a hike in the woods. Nature has a way of grounding you and providing clarity for your mind and spirit.
6. Practice Gratitude
- Create a Gratitude Journal: Write down things you’re grateful for, whether they’re small or big. Reflecting on the positive aspects of your life can uplift your spirit and help you appreciate where you are right now.
- Thank Yourself: Take a moment to thank yourself for the challenges you’ve overcome, the growth you’ve experienced, and the strength you have. You are worthy of recognition.
This Valentine’s Day, whether you’re single, in a relationship, or somewhere in between, take a moment to appreciate and nurture the most important relationship in your life, the one you have with yourself. By embracing unconditional love and practicing self-care, you create a foundation for happiness, growth, and peace.
Written by Michelle Fonseca and Ruth Baah-Gyebi, Registered Psychotherapists
